While I may not have the answer to this quandary, I can still strive to commit myself to the higher standard that my open-minded world view professes. “I know it when I see it,” said the Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart. What exactly constitutes an office relationship, and what rules—if any—should be applied to one?In theory I would have said that full transparency from the beginning is the best approach, but as I had learned, that could lead to complete dismissal of the profile without any chance of getting to know the individual in person. This would allow you to get to know one another free from any serious preconceptions.Your initial conversations would still largely be the blank slate typical of online dating.Still, the rational side of my mind was shouted down by prejudicial fear, forcing me to confront a bias that I didn’t think I possessed.
Nonetheless, two weeks ago, the “openness” part of that equation led to some serious self-examination and reflections on how open to be when first meeting someone.Your initial knowledge of one another would simply be a few talking points gleaned from each other’s dating profiles, without the elephant in the room of health issues.Then, once you’d had the chance to get to know one another and were better able to see beyond the virus and appreciate the rest of the many facets that comprise this human being, perhaps that would be the best time to disclose?As a result, I began to question the concept of “openness”.